Beta Anxiety

Submissive/beta males often suffer from plenty of anxiety and most all of it is related to their sex lives.  The anxiety comes from their inability to please their wives like an Alpha Male can.  A beta male typically suffers from premature ejaculation, a smaller than average penis and overall poor performance when it comes to penetrative sex of any kind.

On the other hand, the beta male is typically very talented when it comes to pleasing their wives orally.  Giving oral pleasure is an indication of their more accommodating personality.  The get plenty of pleasure and fulfillment by giving their wives orgasms this way. 

Despite these talents the beta male tends to focus on the aforementioned shortcomings because the modern woman has greater expectations when it comes to sex.  Having a wife with a high libido adds to the beta's anxiety. 

If the wife finds the right Alpha lover this new relationship usually solves the problem.  The right man will satisfy the wife and also help the cuckold accept his "re-focused" role in the marriage.  In the early stages this is difficult for the cuckold to accept.  He often resents the Alpha male's presence in their lives and feels frustrated that he can't do anything about it.  Eventually, the cuckold will come around and accept his new role.

Once the cuckold does that, he will admire the Alpha, defer to him, obey him and realize that being in the Alpha's presence even adds value to his life.

Karl

Triad Relationships

My favorite cuckold relationship is basically a triad.  It's one where each member of the relationship has their specific purpose. 

The Alpha Male (I hate being referred to as a Bull - I'm not an animal) is primarily to please the woman in away the beta male in the relationship cannot.  It's simply not in his genes, his DNA or his personality.  By taking control of the relationship, the Alpha provides pleasure to both the woman and the beta.

The wife's primary purpose is to please the Alpha Male.  She derives sexual pleasure by doing just that.  She can, if she so chooses, exert varying levels of dominance over her beta husband while remaining submissive in some ways to the Alpha.  The wife shares the responsibility of sexual service to the Alpha with the beta.

At the bottom of the triad is the beta husband.  I don't use the term "bottom" here in not necessarily a derogatory way.  It is simply the position where the beta belongs and would willing admit.  He serves both the Alpha and his wife in the ways they want.   The beta is obedient to a fault, always deferring to the superior male in the relationship.

This arrangement draws the wife and her cuckold husband emotionally closer.  Sharing a common purpose and collaborating to please the Alpha helps improve the marriage.

The reason?  The pressure of having to perform sexually in a way they simply cannot is removed, freeing them of typical masculine responsibilities.  In turn, the wife now enjoys satisfying sex with the Alpha.  Both are happier.

Karl

Lusty Lamapshades

Some women have novel ways of teasing their cuckolds.

Just be careful you don't start a fire while doing this.  Those bulbs can get pretty hot....just like the wives.

Karl

Things Sissies Will Do

Many men, and even some women, like to show their contempt or even disgust at submissive men and the humiliating things they might do for another Dominant Man or Woman.  It's true that a Dom can sometimes get them to do things that are silly, embarrassing, humiliating and even degrading.

The human psyche is an complex thing.  Who knows what makes us tick?  Why are some people Dominant and others submissive?  No one has the real answer.

Take this sissy for instance.

No doubt she posted this picture on Tumblr for someone she wants to please.

Good for her.

Karl

The Respectful Cuckold

Found this nice little posting on Tumblr the other day.  Jut thought I'd share:

Respecting Her Boyfriend

How can a husband let his wife’s boyfriend know he welcomes him in her life and respects his position as her primary lover? Here are a few ideas:

* Don’t avoid her boyfriend. While it may be awkward speaking with the man whom she prefers sexually, make the effort to be friendly and show him you welcome him into your home and your life.

* Make sure she is available for him. When he wants to see her, free up her schedule so she has the time to bond with him.

* Make him feel comfortable in your home. Stock his favorite drinks and offer him one as soon as he walks in. Be ready to offer a refill if he should need one. It wouldn’t hurt to offer him a sandwich (or breakfast), also.

* Don’t ask your wife for sex on her date nights. It’s rude to send her to him soiled.

* Ask your wife about his preferences. Buy her the type of lingerie he finds most appealing.

What other ideas do you have to show her boyfriend respect?

I found this on the Tumblr blog "Cuckold Stories" along with the following picture:

It's a very romantic picture, probably an indication that the cuckold experiences the most angst and arousal when there's more than just sex involved.  That's understandable.

As to the cuckold's request for "other ideas" to her boyfriend respect.  Let me offer one up.

How about filling in for the wife when she's not around so that the boyfriend gets what he wants when he wants it?

Karl

The Collared Cuckold

Carol had a thing for toys.  Bondage toys were her favorite, both for use on her and her cuckold paula.  The slim and finely toned paula knelt in stark contrast to the more buxom and curvy Carol.  Carol wasn't afraid to use her size to her advantage with the all-too-willing cuckold. 

I have to be honest and say that Carol could make a very imposing figure and impression upon a submissive man.  Her smarts, quick wit, sharp tongue and sexy looks could easily charm. 

"I think she needs a collar from you." Carol once told me.  "I've bought her several but coming from you would be kind of cool, you know?"

The discussion took place in their bedroom.  In their bed actually.  The cuckold off doing some monotonous domestic task she'd told her to do, we'd just finished making love and were cuddling. 

"I suppose" I said.  "Let me find one."

"I'll buy a leash and give it to you as a gift, wrap it up and everything" Carol said, her mind always going 100 mpg.  "I'll do it in front of her and you can open it.  She'll wonder what it's for.  Until you hand her your gift."

I laughed.  More in admiration of her creativity and kinkiness than anything else. 

I "collared" the sissy a few weeks later.  paula looked as submissive as ever as she devotedly knelt next to me and kissed my hand while I held the leash.

Then I took her for a walk around the house in nothing but her collar and panties.

Karl

Friends With Benefits

Cuckolding is a way to empower women.  I don't consider radical feminism for a woman to be able to have a "side guy" if she so chooses.  The freedom to go out with another man on a date, enjoy some intimacy and romance can do wonders for a woman's psyche and overall health.

It's particularly important when their intimacy and sex lives at home aren't what they should be. 

Karl

Orally Subservient

Here's a follow-up to my sissy housekeeper post the other day.  I'm going to leave her name out of this for now, if things work out the way I would like them to, you'll understand why.

As much as I like watching her do housework while she's dressed as a maid or housewife, I had a tennis match the other day and I had to leave the house shortly after she arrived.  I did inspect her dress, panties, etc. and had her kiss my crotch before I headed to the clubhouse.  She was left alone to do her chores.  I got back home about four hours later after a couple of beers with the guys, skipping lunch knowing that a hungry sissy was waiting for me.

I've seen this sissy off and on for the past few years.  My travel, being a snowbird and each other's family commitments made getting together regularly a bit difficult. Now that I'm living here full time we're starting to get into a regular routine.  But over time, she's proven to be one very orally submissive gurl for me.  And good at what she does.

When I left the clubhouse I called her and told her Daddy would be home in a few minutes.  That's all I need to tell her.  She knew what to do.  After pulling into the garage and walked into the laundry room she was there on her knees waiting for me.  Those are the rules I've set.

In a few minutes my shorts were off and she was feasting on "Mr. Happy" like she hadn't eaten in a month!  She still gags once and awhile but has learned to take all of me.  There's lots to take but she's a real sport about it. 

I made sure she didn't spill a drop of my cum either.  A bit dribbled onto her lips and chin which I quickly scooped up with my finger and made her suck it clean.

One last kiss on my cock and she was off to make me some lunch.

Game, set, match.

Karl

DIsciplining the Wives

I've slept with several married women.  Some were simply cheating on their husbands in secret, while others were openly cuckolding their spouses.

With only one exception, they all ended up over my lap for a spanking.  Each of them enjoyed it. And all of them either hadn't been spanked by their husband and if they had, didn't enjoy it. Also, I never spanked a woman who didn't want to get spanked.  I'm just not that type of man. 

The most pleasant experiences came when the husbands were watching me discipline the wives.  I even let a couple of them masturbate while I did it.  Of course, they had to ask for permission first.

Carol (the dominant half of a cuckold couple I played with) told me that my spankings made her want to spank her sissy husband when they got home!

I guess I'm pretty good at it.

This nice round target looks like it's in the early stages of a spanking.  I like her choice of colors.

Karl

My Sissy Housekeeper

I had one of my favorite sissies over the other day to clean the house, do laundry, some ironing, wash the bathrooms and even do the windows.  She usually dresses in one of her maids uniforms but this time she was in the old fashioned housewife look, complete with a faggy looking apron, and other frilly undies.

To make it more real for her I pay her $1.00 per hour for her work and as a tip, she gets to suck my cock.  It's a pretty good deal for both of us.   I also have a kinky lady friend I see who's seen my sissy housekeeper a few times.  Ellen would love to have the sissy clean her house for the same rate and maybe even get similar oral service.  It just hasn't worked out yet.  The sissy's married and pretty busy.  You know how it is.

But I have to remind Ellen that the sissy is really mine, and I should decide whether or not I should let her clean Ellen's house.


Karl

Cuckold Couples

Most fun I've ever had was with two different couples who were into cuckolding.  The dominant wife/sub husband dynamic turned me on more than I ever thought it would.

Carol and paul/paula (not their real names) were also into chastity - his chastity that is.

Carol's complaint about paula was that he couldn't last very long and was a premature ejaculator.  Sex with him wasn't fun for her and he went along with just being her pussy licker.  Eventually she locked him up and used to brag to me (and supposedly some of her friends) that john was now "pussy free."

It's all a matter of semantics.  john was getting plenty of pussy with his mouth, lips and tongue.

I made it a point to make sure Carol wasn't "cock free."

Karl