The following are some thoughts about beta males from an Alpha Male's perspective. I agree with many of them but not all.
I'd be very interested in getting some feedback on each of these, especially from beta males, cuckolds, sissies, etc. Alphas are also welcome to contribute. You can email me your feedback: cpadomaz123@gmail.com.
- Women are sexually attracted to Alpha males because we have strongly masculine attributes: physical size, strength, and emotional stoicism. Women are quite happy to get fucked by an Alpha male, but biologically, they need someone to help provide when the baby is born.
- Even in the absence of conception, this is still a woman’s biological imperative: find the best genes to pair with her own for her offspring, and then find the best support available to raise those offspring.
- The Alpha male has the best genes for the female’s offspring, but is not the best support available to care for the offspring. Why? Because the Alpha’s sperm is in high demand, he’s not interested in committing to one woman. He’s happy to fuck her regularly, but that’s the extent of his commitment.
- This is where the beta male comes in. The beta’s place is loving emotional support, and to help the female raise children. Betas possess far more feminine genes, qualities and characteristics that make them naturally more maternal. Betas excel in support roles, but struggle in leadership roles.
- The woman will periodically feel emotional bonding to the Alpha male who fucks her. This is a byproduct of the oxytocin released in her brain after her orgasm. Alpha males are generally not interested in emotional bonding with women, so the woman may feel some rejection. Eventually, the woman understands and accepts this.
- Inviting an Alpha male into a marriage does not supplant the beta cuckold husband, but rather, it complements him. The woman has her sexual and emotional needs met, and that “work load” is shared by two men: Alpha and beta.
- An Alpha Male, especially one who is a Bull understands this dynamic. Most will make an effort to explain it to the woman and convince her to redirect the emotional bonding to her husband, so that she appreciates his value.
Thanks.
Karl
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DeleteThe element of sharing the "work load" is something I can relate to from the "beta" category. I know that when Molly is involved with a more macho lover she gets additional satisfaction, excitement and appreciation, which can lighten the load for her husband. mick
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ReplyDeleteBetas realize they can't compete sexually with the Alphas, but at the same time we struggle to separate the "sexual" from the "emotional" which despite the acceptance of our roles, causes us some angst and anxiety.
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Some interesting points Karl. I realized I wrote kind of a novel here, and I apologize for the wordiness, but I like the thought train these points have lead me down. My paragraph responses line up with each of the points as I tried to stay focused on each one individually.
ReplyDeleteA lot of the time when I see points like this, I find myself internally arguing about variety when the points are talking about specifics as if they apply broadly. For instance: I read “Women are sexually attracted to…” and I stop reading right there and change it to “Some women are sexually attracted to…” because it can fit a lot of sub fetishes. Some women are sexually attracted to Alpha males. Some women are attracted to Alpha women. Some women are attracted to androgynous men. Some women are attracted to kind happy men.
I do agree that there is a biological imperative of child rearing. Both men and women seek the best genes, but as our species and society grows and changes that definition of ‘best genes’ can change. Certainly, there is a strong drive toward a healthy partner, but for some women that’s internalized toward nonphysical traits. General attitude, level of caring, compassion, intelligence, sense of humor. These traits make people thrive in our modern society just as much (if not more than) classically masculine or feminine traits do. And that biological need for someone to provide when the baby is born, part of that is in the biological drive as they seek someone that has both the best genes and that can provide for their child. Bigger, more well-developed men show they have the means to provide (they’ve gotten enough food to grow into that form) for themselves and likely for a mate and child(ren). But again, attitude plays a big role as a man that is possessive will more likely stick around and be more likely to help raise. The ‘my’ attitude is an attractor. Seeing a man that’s proud and takes care of ‘my’ car or ‘my’ clothes, will likely lead to a man that’s proud and takes care of ‘my’ partner or ‘my’ child.
The same way I take issue with ‘women are sexually attracted…’ I take issue with ‘The Alpha male has the best genes… but is not the best support…’. I internally change that to ‘Some Alpha males have the best genes… but are not the best support…’. I don’t believe that being a loving caring person precludes them from being an Alpha. There are men who could easily fit the ‘Alpha’ role but are happily married and monogamous and providing care for their wife and children.
And then there’s the beta in all of this. Same thing… ‘Some betas’ place is loving emotional support’. Betas come in the same variety as their partners and their partners’ Alpha lovers. I will say that in the broader sense, betas do often struggle in a leadership role, but that’s part of the definition of this personality type. There really isn’t an Alpha that isn’t a commanding presence and likewise there really isn’t a beta that’s good at leadership.
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Bonding during pleasurable sex is a two-way street. Women get oxytocin, but men get vasopressin which help them bond with their partner and often gives them a protective ownership responsibility toward the partner and their offspring. Now, vasopressin’s affect on men is not nearly as strong as oxytocin’s affect on women, but it’s there. Neither of these hormones are affective with multiple partners, so in these scenarios Alpha men or ‘bulls’ will have the least affect, women with a beta husband and an alpha side lover will have more, and the monogamous beta husbands will have the most. And not to beat a dead horse, but ‘Eventually, the woman understands and accepts this’ is hopefully mostly true but there are going to be women who do not understand nor accept the new situation they’re moving into. I, of course, hope nothing but success to people in these types of relationships, but this can be a marriage destroying act. The beta has to be able to accept his less than full role, the woman has to be able to accept her marriage as sacrosanct while getting sexual pleasure outside of the marriage, and the Alpha has to be able to accept an almost entirely physical role and not bond with the woman.
DeleteAt its ideal, having an Alpha enter into the marriage of a woman and her beta can be wonderful. It can enhance all of their self perceptions and make each participant stronger and more loving. But as with my opinion above, this isn’t certain. There is hardly anything that involves human psyches and emotions that is 100%.
I’d expect that an Alpha entering into a marriage with a woman and her beta husband would be the most experienced in this type of relationship. Certainly, Alphas have to start somewhere and might start with a marriage that has already experienced several Alphas, but as they traverse from relationship to relationship I’d imagine they’re the ones with the knowledge of what works and what doesn’t. I’d imagine the best Alpha is the one that can assess if the marriage is ready for him and can help guide the wife and perhaps the beta into and through the relationship.
In summary, I think there’s a big difference between the fantasized ideal of a happily married woman her beta husband and the Alpha lover that comes into their relationship to the delight of all involved, and the dynamic wonderfully varied real world we live in. Not all Alphas are the same. Not all women are the same. Not all beta husbands are the same. Just matching up the right woman with her beta husband is difficult. Adding in a third party to a marriage and having that be a success adds even more variability. I love both reading about and occasionally writing about this type of dynamic, but it’s just fantasy on my part as I take pleasure imagining myself in all three roles. I can imagine myself as the loving serving beta. I can imagine myself as the caring woman gaining sexual relief outside of her marriage partner. I can imagine joining a marriage as the strongly confident Alpha. And unfortunately, because I can see and desire to be in all three positions, I’ll probably never experience any of these parts.
Great posts above.
ReplyDeleteI agree with most of the original author's points. From a beta perspective, I'd only add that a woman's trying to find the best genes for her offspring may also involve intelligence (future breadwinning for children) and other factors she appreciates.
Of course, that does not equate to sexual happiness or fulfillment in many cases, thus the desire to find a more masculine and rugged individual. Thanks, sara